Dear Theresa May…

EU referendum vote brexit

It’s no secret that I did not, personally, vote to leave the EU.

Personally, I think leaving the EU is a terrible mistake. I think it’s a triumph of nationalism and pride over reason and economic good sense.

You might think differently.

That’s okay. We can agree to differ.

And, honestly, I don’t care any more.

What I care about now is that the idiotic hubris of the Conservative Party is horribly close to pushing us all off a cliff. And expecting us to knit our own parachute on the way down.

I’d always believed that people go into politics (mostly) to make the world better.

They won’t all agree on how to do that, or what the order of priorities should be. But in the main, these are public servants and I can respect that, even if I don’t like their specific brand of politics.

But right now, I’m struggling.

I’m struggling with the various factions in UK politics who are arguing and shoving and madly trying to out-do each other to derail the negotiation process.

Look, politicians. YOU made us vote. YOU decided to trigger Article 50 before anyone had sat down and made a sensible plan. YOU went into negotiations with a set of fixed demands that were contrary to the EU rules that YOU helped to draft.

The very least you can do – as servants of the people – is to buckle down and get the job done. Make a deal. Accept that you might not get every little thing the way you want it. Suck it up.

And while you’re at it? Please spare me this appalling notion that not striking a deal is somehow equivalent to striking a blow for freedom and sovereignty.

Ooh, look at us, tearing up all those trade deals and replacing them with crappy WTO tariffs instead. We’re so patriotic!

We’re making it uneconomic for manufacturers to make products in the UK because there’s no free movement of goods! Hurrah for Britain! That’s the spirit that got us through two World Wars!

Except it wasn’t, was it Janet? What got us through two World Wars was a spirit of co-operation and a willingness to make agreements with our European neighbours despite massive cultural differences… 

I’m a business owner. I see the impact of your failures first hand. The news looks bad, and sales dry up. Boris gets on a podium, and everyone holds their breath. What ridiculous piece of nonsense is going to come out of his mouth now?

Nobody’s committing to anything – because we have zero visibility of what we’re supposed to be planning for.

Will my employer leave the UK? Will my local NHS Trust cut back on services because of staff shortages? Will some of my family need to move if residency laws change? Can I afford to book a holiday? Should I just keep hiring freelancers so I can let people go if my profits collapse? 

Businesses and freelancers just need Theresa May and her party to get the job done.

Honestly, I don’t care that the vote didn’t go my way.

It’s hardly the first time a Conservative government has done something that’s made me want to hold my head in my hands and weep for humanity.

But nobody suggests replacing the England manager halfway through a quarter-final. There comes a point where you say – this is the team we have, these are the options we have, let’s make the best of it.

So politicians, can I just say – on behalf of small business owners like me – grow the feck up, and do your job. 


Sally is a full-time blogger and founder of the Tots100, Trips100, Foodies100 and HIBS100 communities, along with the MAD Blog Awards. She spends a bit too much time on the Internet. She’s also a very happy Mum to Flea, the world’s coolest ten year old.

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  1. Loretta
    19th October 2018 / 6:32 am

    I voted to leave, and would do so again and again. My grandmother never wanted to enter the European Economic Community all those years ago, yet she was more mature than the remainers have been on the referendum. She accepted that the vote didn’t go her way. When I voted it was knowing that it would probably mean a no deal outcome. Otherwise it is not leaving the EU.

    • Sally
      19th October 2018 / 12:04 pm

      Oh, Loretta. Really?

      This comment is just sad. I respect fully your right to hold opinions but:

      It’s a democracy. Hurrah for living in a country where we have the right to disagree with our government. God forbid any of us ever experiences a system where that isn’t allowed. Maturity doesn’t come into it, Loretta. It’s democracy. And the alternative is a Very Bad Thing.

      • Loretta.
        20th October 2018 / 6:42 am

        Democracy was done the day we all had a chance to vote. Democracy is not marching and trying to shout louder than those who won in an attempt to keep us shackled to the EU. I stick by my comment. Those remainders pushing for a people’s vote are not mature, intelligent or respectful.

        • Sally
          21st October 2018 / 12:27 pm

          You’re using a very different definition of democracy to the rest of us, I think. It’s not a once and done thing. That’s called tyranny. It might work for you but I prefer a democracy thanks.

  2. Shivaun
    19th October 2018 / 10:01 am

    Oh my you have summed up my feelings entirely ! I don’t want to get wound up be the ridiculousness of it – But I can’t help it… I’ve got this low level simmering anger going on – I don’t like it, I’m not that person but I can’t help it. Not quite sure who I’m angry at though. Cameron for starting it, the voters, the shoddy conservative government who only seem to care about their own egos and absolutely nobody else , or the right wing press who fuel the hate, the anger and the short sightedness. Even angry at myself for thinking my ‘remoaner’ thoughts .. Where’s all this going ? A second referendum? Deal no deal ? Who knows … Just know there are huge issues out there for Britain that are taking a back seat to all of this ‘carry on’ . Government now needs to pull together, get a deal , then call a general election and then we can get on with our lives … Not too much to ask??

  3. 19th October 2018 / 11:56 am

    Well said! I wish they would just get on with the job in hand and sort it out sooner rather than later. No matter what the outcome we will have to deal with it, but the limbo is killing everything off, including hope. I didn’t vote to leave, but I accepted the result and hoped that the government would make the best of it. But I am increasingly feeling let down and frustrated and worried about the future of my children.