Magical Moments of Parenting #400.

 

Flea

I love bedtime. All bedtimes are great, but bedtime with
kids is particularly lovely.

Tonight, Flea and I were snuggled up on her bed, having just
finished a story.

We played a quick round of a weird game we play that doesn’t
have a name but involves drawing letters on  each other’s backs with our fingers and trying
to guess them. And then Flea was just having one of those cuddly moments that
are becoming increasingly rare as she gets older.

I wish I could always be a child,” she whispered to me, pushing her fringe out of her face.

“Why’s that then?”

She stroked my face gently. “So I can always cuddle you,”
she replied.

I know, right? God, my kid is so cute
sometimes.

“You know Flea, I think you’re always allowed to cuddle your
Mummy,”
I told Flea.

This isn’t strictly true, in case you're wondering – I don’t still cuddle
my mother. I’m 35, she’s almost 70. I might break her, for starters. But for the purposes of this conversation, I felt it was a justifiable lie.

Flea thought about it for a moment. “What even if you’re 8 or 9 or 10?
she said, doubtfully.

“Yep.”

Oh. But not when I’m 20,” she said, definitely. 

“Why not?”

“Well, you’ll probably be dead by then.”

Good to know.

  

About 

Sally is a full-time blogger and founder of the Tots100, Trips100, Foodies100 and HIBS100 communities, along with the MAD Blog Awards. She spends a bit too much time on the Internet. She’s also a very happy Mum to Flea, the world’s coolest ten year old.

30 Comments

  1. MrsW
    24th June 2010 / 10:46 pm

    Ouch! 🙂
    I wonder if the cuddling thing is generational, I still cuddle my 15yo and can’t imagine a time when I won’t. I have to pin the 13yo boy down but he loves it really (he does – he’s a cuddler). I don’t ever remember cuddling my Mum, I mean I know I must have when I was little but if it was still going on at 15 surely I’d remember? Apart from the odd hug goodbye I can’t recall much physical contact between us as adults at all – not even at the worst of times or the best for that matter. Maybe that’s why I can’t leave my kids alone? My Mum’s reaction when she witnesses me squeezing a hug out of my big kids is often along the lines of “oh you’re too big for that” or “get off your Mum”, which just makes me cuddle them harder.

  2. 24th June 2010 / 10:30 pm

    ha ha ha, I love it, yes the boys keep telling me I will be dead soon too

  3. 24th June 2010 / 10:45 pm

    Actual LOL followed by a cough and a splutter 🙂

  4. 24th June 2010 / 10:52 pm

    Lovely reminder of how short life is… very funny!

  5. Priness_L_88
    24th June 2010 / 11:54 pm

    Lol! It was going so well! Best make the most of the next couple of years then, huh!

  6. Michelle Twin Mum
    24th June 2010 / 11:34 pm

    I hate to think of the time when I will not have cuddles with my babes. You have to laugh at kids thought – they are so forthright with what they say! Mich x

  7. 25th June 2010 / 8:54 am

    Had she just traced ‘R’, ‘I’, ‘P’ on your back?

  8. 25th June 2010 / 9:01 am

    I love the way children think we are sooo old, I can still remember when I was little I was thinking the same. My Isabelle is just 3 years old now, and has not mentioned my age yet, but when she does….will remember it’s not only me but all of us mums 😉

  9. 25th June 2010 / 1:48 pm

    Flea is genius. Seriously. I’m just waiting for her to have her own prime time show….

  10. 25th June 2010 / 1:58 pm

    Aren’t children brilliant? My 14 year old has stopped hugging me in public, but often stops for one when we’re home! I still have the 10 and 3 year old who shamelessly hug me without question!
    PS I do that game with my kids — I think because my mum used to do it with me and my sister.

  11. Emma
    25th June 2010 / 4:01 pm

    This post made me smile , giggle & snort all at the same time! 🙂

  12. Nikki
    25th June 2010 / 9:22 pm

    LMAO. Love the way the kids say it as they see it. Oh and I still cuddle my Mum and she’s 64! Hope my kids are the same :-))

  13. 25th June 2010 / 9:22 pm

    Another candid and precious Flea-ism! You should create a book out of these conversations.

  14. 25th June 2010 / 9:36 pm

    Yes and 50 is ANCIENT. You’ll all stand around my funeral saying, “Well, she had a good innings,” I know.

  15. 25th June 2010 / 9:41 pm

    It is interesting. My family are Scots methodists and my Grandmother was very non-tactile. I remember my Mum saying that as her Mum got older, she consciously made an effort to always hug her hello and goodbye, and to be more tactile with her own kids.
    And my Mum was very tactile but I do remember being told when I was about 12 I was too old to hold hands, and we don’t particularly hug now – although we did when I had been away at uni, or if we’ve exchanged presents or something. Just not, you know, on a daily basis.
    Whereas I’ve gone a step further still and am ultra-tactile with Flea – I hope she’s like your teenagers and still lets me cuddle her when she gets older – at the moment she’s going through an embarrassed ‘gerroff’ phase if anyone can see!

  16. 25th June 2010 / 9:41 pm

    Yes, I don’t think they get that appropriate filter for a few years yet!

  17. 25th June 2010 / 9:42 pm

    It really was going well, wasn’t it? I was all warm and glowy and then – not. Still, I can see the funny side.

  18. 25th June 2010 / 9:45 pm

    I really love that everyone plays that game – two people on Twitter told me they do it too (with their kids, not each other). I thought it was just us – I played it as a child, too.

  19. 25th June 2010 / 9:46 pm

    Hope Flea is too! That’s lovely about your Mum.

  20. 25th June 2010 / 10:49 pm

    Oh your daughter is so priceless you just could not make her comments up could you, bless her xx

  21. 26th June 2010 / 8:04 pm

    Fabulous! It was my 40th birthday recently and when Daisy asked me how old I was nad I told her, she looked at me for a minute and then said sweetly, “are you going to die soon?”

  22. Adrienne
    30th June 2010 / 10:09 pm

    I think the whole nurture / nature debate could resurface here. Flea will cuddle you ALWAYS, it’s what you’ve taught her and it’s magnificent. I’m 39 and my mum is 66 – I still cuddle her, my two are 6 and 3 and there is nothing they love more than a cuddle from me or their Dad (well, except from my Mum!) Children need and want love from their parents/grandparents, we are the lucky ones in the position to be cuddled back.

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